Category Archives: Kids are people

Dads Deal With Life’s Ups and Downs

We can get stressed by changes in our lives, but we can help our kids and ourselves if we know how to face them.  This is a great article I want to share with you on how dads can have a positive influence on their families by how they deal with life’s changes. You’ll really like the “Action Points” in this article. They give you great steps to take to overcome some of the stress dads and kids face during transitions and changes.

Just click the photo below to read this great advice:

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Daddy-Daughter Duet Captures Hearts

I had to share this wonderful Daddy-Daughter duet of “You’ve Got a Friend in Me” which has captured the hearts of 89 million viewers and counting!: We Love Music.

Building a Closer Relationship

I want to share this great article with you on how Dads can build a closer relationship with their kids. Here are some ideas on how to be more approachable and dependable in your kids’ lives. Just click on the picture below to read the article.

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Affirming Dads & Dealing with Teens

Here are 2 articles I think you’ll like. The first one talks about how we can be “affirming” dads and how this helps our children and us. In the next, you’ll find some helpful advice on how to deal with a haughty teenage son or daughter.
Click the photo below for a link to each article.

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3 Tips for Dads of ‘Haughty’ Teens

Should We Blame Dad?

We so often say that “the apple does not fall far from the tree” and to some degree that is true. Kids usually turn out like their parents. But it is not uncommon that dangerous kids come from good parents. Kids sometimes do things that a parent cannot imagine where the idea came from.

So when a kid does something criminal should we blame the parent? And the answer is no, at least not all the time. Sure if parents neglect, abuse or give only bad example to their kids, the kids have a good chance of having real problems in the future. They can become bad parents themselves, who have difficulty with relationships.

But often parents do everything right. They are loving, supportive, understanding, and yet their child just becomes someone they don’t really understand or know. This can be the result of mental illness or some other maladjustment in the child that leads to this behavior.

I know of one family with two boys, and one has followed the usual path to success with school, friends and family. The other was a thief at an early age, and despite love and support of his family he has ended up in prison. Another family I know has three children and two have turned out like their parents, responsible, productive and supportive of others. The third is without direction, cannot get any traction to start his life and is now an adult completely unlike the rest of his family. I am sure each of you could add to this list.

The point is we need to show love and support for all dads and moms. When we hear of a tragedy or of someone going astray we should not blame the parents. And as difficult as it is if we are the parents of the kid who goes astray, we must not blame ourselves. Of course we should always examine our behavior, and if we have not fulfilled our obligation as a parent then take responsibility and make amends.

Being a dad is not easy duty. It is important to be the best dad you can be, however things can happen that were beyond your control. We must have respect for ourselves and our vocation as a dad and show that same respect for other dads as well.