Lifelong Love of a Dad

Some weeks ago a follower of this blog and a longtime friend, Patrick Ward sent along a link to a song in his Irish tradition that I want to pass along to all my readers. The singer will tell you the back story of the song before he sings so I won’t go into that here.

The reason I want to send it out to you is because it shows the lifelong love of a father for his family, and the longing he has to have his family together. The father in the song understands his son’s need to move on in life but also helps to keep him anchored to his family and to the love that rests there for him.

Some of us had fathers like this one in the song but many of us did not. Whether you did or didn’t isn’t important now. What is important is the father that you are. The father in the song is a model to be followed.

In a recent post I put up the video of the young man counting back from 21, recalling his life with his alcoholic father. The powerful video reminds us that a father is the most important person in his kid’s life. The father shapes the son and daughter, so we must always take care to treat our children with the love and respect they deserve.

As you listen to the song here, think of ways you can support your kids with simple love and attention. Think about what those letters meant to the son so far away.

Now here is the link. And if you like you can Google the title – “Kilkelly Ireland Song” and see and hear several different artists performing it.

One thought on “Lifelong Love of a Dad

  1. Vito Mussomeli

    Today one of my sons texted me thanking me for being a “great father” …. it’s my birthday and he’s now long over 40 … maybe he’s forgotten some things in the past … because I wasn’t always a “great father”. And it’s something I know I may not live up to tomorrow. But part of love is returning to love again despite failing before.

    Love is a moveable anchor. It anchors us wherever we land, gives us time to recoup and add new supplies before re-tossing ourselves into the currents of a tumultuous life. But living can erode the strength of the anchor and so when in harbor, we must refurbish the love in our hearts as we do our thoughts and dreams. Love renews or, as without anchor, begins listing and becomes lost.

    A young woman I know recently became a mom for the first time. She reminds me how hard it is to learn how to be a parent. I try to help her understand and part of talking with her is explaining that parenting is a discipline of re-learning, re-furbishing and re-charging our dreams and hearts. My children are in their mid and late 40’s. I find parenting as challenging as when they were young and I could pick them up and out of a store where they refused to behave. I still have to “pick them up” on occasion … but it’s not to discipline them .. they must do that … it’s to help them discipline themselves, find their way back to those they love and want to dream with. It’s a cardinal rule that a father never demands his children to love him and dream with him. We must always remember the dialogue our children have with Life which we may or may not be privy to.

    In the end, if we are successful as a father, all we leave this world with is the “thanks” of our children and the nod of a Gracing God. So buckle up! Parenting is not for faint of soul.


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