Superman!

The other night I watched a movie on Netflix called “The Other F Word.”  It is a documentary that is really well done. (We all know the meaning of The F-word so this other F-word is Father.)

Since it features screaming guys in bands performing songs that deal with the misery of life and the use of the F-word to express it, this movie would not have been a choice for me if it had not dealt with dadding. But I began watching it out of duty to my cause and found it inspirational and uplifting and here is why.

First of all the guys it features, several different lead singers from different bands, are all beyond being the kids they were when they began their bands. Although they have continued with their financially successful bands, they have the perspective of mature men. They are each now married and have kids, and that changed their lives completely.

However, what struck me is that each of these men featured talked openly about having had terrible fathers. They spoke of neglect, abuse, and a host of other problems they had with their dads. But instead of being like their dads, these guys decided to be good dads—actually great dads. They have relationships with their kids they never had with their own dads, and they each talk about how they love it. They love being good dads.

I have several tag lines I use from time to time in my blog, and when I am talking about dadding. One is “better dads, better kids, a better world for all.”  Another tag line is “A dad is the most important man in his kid’s life.”  What these point out is that dads are essential to the well-being of their kids—repeat, essential.

It is very hard for a kid to grow up well-adjusted and able to live a happy, productive life without having had a good dad. If you did not have a good dad, there is nothing that can be done about that, however you do not have to repeat the performance and be a bad dad yourself. Dads are the foundation upon which a strong life is constructed.

I called this edition of the blog, Superman. That’s because a dad is Superman to his kids. Kids expect their dads to do no wrong and be powerful enough to help them deal with this frightful world.  So when they grow up they are adjusted to life and don’t need to form bands that sing out The F-word.

8 thoughts on “Superman!

  1. Dan Conway

    I was a senior in high school and a member of our church’s youth group. Four of us–my three best friends and me–were responsible for a summer picnic. That meant we had to buy all the groceries and do the setup in the park we rented for the occasion. When I asked my Dad if I could borrow the car–and in the process told him why I wanted it–he offered to help. (My Dad worked for a large supermarket chain in our home town. He knew how to get the best deals on grocery prices!) When it came time to unload the car and set up the park, Dad helped my friends and me. Afterward, my friends pulled me aside and said (to a man), “Your Dad is really cool.” I was astonished. I never thought of my Dad as mean or abusive (he clearly wasn’t), but I didn’t see him as cool either. He was just my Dad. It took my friends’ perspectives on him to open my eyes. From that moment on, my relationship to Dad was different. I can’t say that I saw him as a superman at that late stage of my adolescence, but seeing him as “cool” was more than enough. Now that he is 92 and in a nursing home, my eyes are open even wider. Looking back on my experience of him for nearly 65 years, I can honestly say that my Dad really is cool. More than that, he really is a super man!

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